Take Fear in One Hand, Passion in the Other Hand…
By Monique Franssen Myers
Take all your fears in one hand and passion in the other and LEAP!
Lisa Nichols teaches about that in one of her speeches.
Do you ever have the feeling that you are not living the life you are supposed to live?
Do you ever feel that you are missing something? That you are off track? Stuck?
Do you know that you know that there is something missing, or that you were meant for greater things?
I know, we don’t always want to admit that maybe we were supposed to make a difference in the life of others, that we are supposed to leave our mark; after all, who am I, right?
However, if I take an honest look at my life, I see a thread all through my life where every now and then I took a small step forward onto my true path only to quickly step back on the path I know so well – even though it doesn’t lead anywhere and even though it never made me happy or fulfilled. Some of these little jaunts lasted a little longer than others, brought me more joy than others, I even tasted some real success and an increase of abundance, but for one reason or another – usually because I valued other people’s opinions more than my own – I would get back on the beaten path and pick up where I left off. Deflated, beat down, knowing that I failed once more. And every time it became just a little harder to get back in touch with my dreams, my purpose, my passions.
I have been on a life-long quest to find a way to change that, to change me, to create a different life and outcome. It brought me from the Netherlands to Switzerland where I took several adventures into consciousness and self-development. Some of the worked better than others, some were just plain un-substantiated methods and teachings that were designed to keep you spending more and more on the next course that was ‘needed’ to get your ‘breakthrough’. They all had some truth, some wins and things that made sense and allowed me to make a lasting change – however small. Imagine a rocket on its way to the moon; if you make a 1-degree adjustment in direction where do you think it will finally land? Certainly not the moon! It would be way off. So, those little adjustments I made, even though I didn’t realize it at the time, made a big difference in where I am now.
A couple of months ago I decided I had lived the same year enough times. It is time to get off the treadmill, leave my beaten path for good and start living my best possible life. Yes, still by making small changes, but making a lot of small changes rapidly, consistently, over the course of 2018 and beyond. God put me on this earth for a specific purpose. It is my choice to find, and live out that purpose or stay on the treadmill, chosen only because I didn’t know any better and failed to search.
Fear, although self-created, is a very real and strong opponent. The longer we live in fear the more we get used to it, the more comfortable it is. Fear is like that old sweater – when you wear it, you know you’ll make a bad first impression, but it is so comfortable, so familiar, that you truly belief people will ‘see’ that the real you is really not ‘that’ way. Fear is like an abused dog – one day it beats you up, the next day you go right back because it’s comfortable, it’s what you know, it’s familiar.
Funny thing is, when you start looking fear in the face, it grows. When you make your intentions to leave it clear, it grabs you and holds you right where it wants to. You cannot just ‘get over it’. You cannot just leave it. But what you can do is stop focusing on it. Accept it for what it is. Embrace it almost. Then, hold it in one hand, grab passion and faith with your other hand and leap! Now that’s courage.
Don’t wait to get over the fear. Don’t wait till the time is right. Don’t wait till you’re courageous. Don’t wait till you’re old, young, slim, fit enough.
The right time is now. Your time has come. People are waiting for you to show up. They’re waiting for your message. They need you. The world needs you.
Yes. You are part of the puzzle.
So, to get back to my decision a couple of months ago, I enrolled in a full year coaching. Real coaching. Real self-development. Is it taking my fears away? No, but I know how to change my mind, my paradigms. I know how to leap and how to be the best possible me, for now, and keep growing.
I know how to change my focus and give all my energy to what I want instead of the fear, other negative thoughts, and emotions.
A very real and fast way to change your direction, is by asking the right questions. Ponder those questions, quiet your mind and expect an answer. Those answers may not always come in the form you expect them to, so open your eyes, ears, and heart and be willing to be unconventional.
Albert Einstein said: “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on it, I’d invest 55 minutes of that hour coming up with the right question. Because once I had the right question I would immediately have the right answer.”
There are no questions without answers. There is no yes without no. There is no light without darkness. No up without down. And no success without failure.
Take fear in one hand, grab passion in the other and LEAP!